Buttes Of Resiliency:

The Essentials Of Resolve

“Nothing external to you has any power over you.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Though you may find yourself compelled as a result of duress to act, remember that nothing external to you has any actual power over you. You are the master of your perspective and as such, you alone are able to decide how you will interpret the world and which actions you will engage in as a result. External forces may attack your mental resolve and your physical integrity, but they are powerless to direct that which refuses to be controlled. Even in the face of physical destruction, though tortuous, you can still refuse submission. The more you strengthen your perspective, your will and your innate sense of self, the more resilient to the mental and physical challenges of the world you will become.

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” – Mahatma Gandhi

The perspective you create determines how you interpret and in turn experience the world around you. Obstacles in life can often be framed as opportunities to learn, rather than as miseries that must be endured. Of course, there are physical, tortuous realities that are very difficult to overcome or withstand. However, preconceived examples of intense physical harm or destruction actually reinforce the necessity of mastering your own perspective, as you can never control what the universe will throw at you. Remember, resiliency like happiness is not a destination but an ongoing journey, a process that requires constant renewal and growth. It is an aspiration, a state of being that you cultivate but also one which can always be improved upon.

“Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within.” – Eckhart Tolle

As with all things, how you experience pleasure or happiness is dependent on your internal perspective, your core beliefs, your interpretation of the universe that forms your own personal reality. However, though your mind is the measure of all things, pleasure and happiness are two distinctly different forces. Inherently, pleasure requires stimulus from the external world to exist. It is a reaction to something extrinsic deemed desirable, a temporary state, dependent on the existence of the external force that has elicited it. Happiness, on the other hand, originates entirely from within. It is a state of being more reliably sustained, divorced from the necessity of external stimulus to exist because it arises from within, rather than without. You can experience happiness regardless of what is happening outside yourself, whereas the existence of pleasure is dependent on those same exterior forces to exist. Fundamentally, this is why an endless, exclusive pursuit of pleasure tends to lead to unhappiness. As pleasure is an experience dependent on forces extrinsic to yourself, it will never be as reliable or sustainable as that which can be manifested from within.

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” – Helen Keller

You cannot choose which obstacles life will throw at you, but you can willfully decide where you’re going to focus your attention and how you’re going to act. Staying consistently resilient to the trials of the outside world is an ongoing process that requires constant maintenance and renewal. As you get better at controlling your perspective, it gets easier to maintain feelings of contentment even in the face of overwhelming difficulties. You must deliberately choose what you’re going to believe, how you’re going to frame the world and which things you’re going to exert effort thinking or doing. As you create a series of beliefs that frame your reality more optimistically, you’ll learn to disarm perceived negative stimulus and empower thoughts or actions that are more positive, more constructive.

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” – Jimmy Dean

No matter how hard you wish it, you will never be able to prevent the endless series of challenges that await you every single day that you live and breath. You can, however, decide how you’re going to handle these obstacles. Are you going to let them beat you down? Will you allow them to diminish your success in life? Your happiness? Or perhaps, you’d rather overcome them, be empowered by their conquest and reach even greater heights of success in spite of, or perhaps even because of, these struggles. Become the master of your own perspective. Never forget, you alone have the power to make your life what you want it to be.