A Snowy Boscage:

Unshackled In Spite Of Misfortune

“Gratitude is often caused not by gain but by loss.” – Mokokoma Mokhonoana

When you’re succeeding in life and feeling confident, it often becomes difficult to appreciate all of the prosperity and delight that surrounds you. Getting overly fixated on your vision of the future, in the accomplishments you hope to achieve or the objects you covet, all too easily leads to a lack of perspective and a kind of somnambulism. Time and again, it takes the loss of what we’ve taken for granted to finally wake us from our slumber, to rouse a deep sense of gratitude for what still remains.

“Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment, until it becomes a memory.” – Dr. Seuss

How many times have you looked back on a memory only to be filled with the regret of what might have been? Or, perhaps you wish you had expressed more thanks in that moment, as you now realize how precious the experience you had was, yet how casually you took it for granted at the time. The goal is to become fully conscious of our past mistakes so that we may cease repeating them in the present and future. This is how we become fully grateful for what we have now, in the present day. It’s never too late to give thanks, never too late to create an abundance of gratitude that helps us live every day to the fullest, so that we may look back joyously, unshackled from regret.

“If tragedy never entered our lives, we wouldn’t appreciate the magic.” – Nikki Rowe

If the jubilations and miracles in life were not fleeting, would we be able to appreciate them at all? Is it not the impermanent nature of all experiences that make those happenings profound? That make them precious? Though painful, tragedy is unfortunately an essential part of the human condition. Without it, we’d all likely be unwaveringly callous, even less aware of the merriment and bounty around us, imprisoned in a purgatory free from even the possibility of real, lasting happiness.

“A new day: Be open enough to see opportunities. Be wise enough to be grateful. Be courageous enough to be happy.” – Steve Maraboli

As difficult as it is to become stoic in the face of loss, accepting of the hardships in your reality, it is the only true way to eventually move forward, filled with lasting contentment, In spite of the misfortunes you’ve endured on your journey. It’s regrettable, but an enlightened perspective is often most effectively gained through the intricacies of prolonged suffering. It is only by overcoming, by rebuilding ourselves and persevering, that we become stronger than we were before, paradoxically capable of an even greater abundance of happiness as a result.

“She took a step and didn’t want to take any more, but she did.” – Markus Zusak

Against all odds, you must persist. Only through the process of overcoming the tragedies in your life will you increase your ability and resolve to withstand the challenges you’ll inevitably face in the future. This is how lasting resiliency is gained, its depths limited only by your own perspective. It may take time to fully realize, but you are, in fact, as strong as you wish to be, as content as you’re willing to become.